Why Did I Commit to a LifeStyle Change?
Last May the reality sunk in that in June my twins were graduating from high school. In August they’d both be leaving, at once, for college. While for some they were not going terribly far, for me, the three hours they’d both be going to Lancaster, PA was really, really far. They might as well have been flying to California. As a working mom who works really long days, and often works quite a few hours on weekends, spending six hours in the car for a single visit felt daunting. The other important piece of the puzzle is that for my entire adult life, I always have said that my kids were my motivation. They have been my why. So with them leaving, I felt like the ground beneath me was shifting in a fairly seismic way.
It should also be noted that my weight has often fluctuated. I like to eat out and I’m a bit of a foodie. I have a hard time depriving my self of anything, whether it’s a latte or jeans I like, I believe life is short and I work hard so I enjoy indulging. When all of these “feelings” were hitting me in M ay, I was certainly at an upturn in my weight. I feared that if I didn’t get a grip on things, when the kids left I would be alone, laying on the couch, eating chocolate, and completely unable to record any voice over. I was essentially afraid I would fail to function. I needed to choose something better.
The Block Party
Around this time my neighbor across the street, Efi, organized a pretty amazing block party. It was great in all the ways a block party can be. Everyone showed up. Everyone was kind. And, the food was awesome. Efi happens to also be a working mom, an accountant who specializes in managing money for wealthy families. Another working mom was there too, my friend and neighbor Melanie who is a lawyer in NYC. Well, Melanie looked better than she had in all the years that I have known her. I was amazed. As I was gobbling handfuls of potato chips, I asked Melanie what she was doing. She began to tell me about her journey. I continued to munch on the chips while she elaborated.
Melanie shared that she too, like me, needed a change. Her mom has been ill and she could not sit down and weight for the same issues to come her way. She started working with nutritionists who, unlike anyone else I had ever worked with, also had an accountability aspect to their practice. This resonated with me as accountability has worked so well in my voice over practice thus far. In fact, it has been essential to my success. I got their information and decided to give it a whirl.
My Health Journey
I started working with the team at SugarSnapShift. Without betraying the terms of their NDA, I will tell you that I eagerly embraced their food recipes. While some might look at it as giving up a lot of food, I found that my diet prior to working with this brilliant team was so limited and backwards that I gained for more food than I eliminated. I loved their recipes and took comfort in them. I also learned to make better choices and to combine foods better. I learned about portion sizes too. As the weight and the inches came off every week, I noticed many things about myself:
- I felt that I had more endurance in the booth which is crucial in long form narration.
- I noticed that my sugar was stable so I didn’t feel like I need breaks or naps from work in the afternoon. I wasn’t having that crash in the 3pm hour.
- I noticed that I was calmer and not as quick to react, whether with my kids or work scenarios.
- I just felt better. I felt better in my own skin and I felt more balanced.
- My headaches have been better. They are not gone but they are not worse.
Voice and Nutrition
I will say that I have avoided dairy for years, so this is not new for me. In general, dairy can cause inflammation and phlegm which is not ideal for recording. On this plan, I seem to be less phlegmy, which is overall a help. I’m not clear if it’s one change in particular or the total impact, but I can say that this change has been great for me. For example, is it that I make a daily effort to stay hydrated or that I have not had red meat since May, (which is difficult, because I have always loved it)? I’m not sure. It could be both, it could be one more than the other. I have also reduced my caffeine and sugar intake. So, I’m not clear exactly what is working, I’m just going to keep doing all of it.
Life as an Empty Nester
So you might be wondering, how I am getting along with my kids away? Well, it’s actually been alright. I miss them, of course. But when your kids are happy and thriving, it is a joy to hear about how well they are doing, and we celebrate their successes. I have been visiting regularly, and when they are home I try not to work at all. That is new for me and not so easy, but as every moment with them is precious, I now fiercely guard this sacred time. I feel, with certainty, that my wellness journey prepared me for their departure. I was mentally and physically ready because I gave myself the gift of self-help, support, and wellness before they left. Having a team of wellness experts around you sets you up for success. Within such a framework, I gave myself a chance to thrive. I gave me chance to reach some rather important goals and to see a bright light was possible for me. When I saw that, I saw that this would be a positive time for all of us.
Of course this chat with Gwen about our health made me draw a parallel to voice over and think about how easily it can all be undone. Imagine years of hard work and suddenly the ups and downs of voice over just continue to spiral down. I of course thought back to hearing Dave Fennoy, world famous voice actor best known for his video game roles, who I had the privilege of hearing speak for an entire day back in 2016 at a conference called VO Revolution. Perhaps it was his lack of pretension that got me, but Dave talked about how after a few big bookings he thought that he had made it. He shared how his business peaked and then plummeted. He advised working as if every day is your first day in voice over and warned that if you don’t you can lose it all. I carry this with me. This has always had my wheels turnings. So, if all that we have worked hard to build can slip aways so easily, here are some of my best tips to lay a strong foundation for your voice over business:
This weekend, on a glorious Saturday morning, I was walking my dogs around our block. I was looking at the Cherry blossoms and lilacs in bloom, and thinking about how even though I had some editing to do and a coaching lesson to plan, I had so much time that day. Time to enjoy with my husband. Time to enjoy with my kids. One of my nieces was in from Toronto and was coming to visit. Weekends are precious for working moms, because even if we still have some work to do, we can revel in the joy of the freedom that the weekend typically brings.
If your goal is to build a successful, thriving business in voice over and earn a consistent, sustainable income, working long hours is the only way to do this. There is no magic bullet or secret sauce. According to Jennifer Cohen’s article in Forbes, James Cash Penny, better known as the founder of JC Penny, once said, “Unless you are willing to drench yourself in your work beyond the capacity of the average man, you are just not cut out for positions at the top.”
Every single week I schedule at least two pilates sessions. I find that in addition to keeping me fit, they help me to relax as well. Jennifer Cohen explains the connection between fitness and success in Forbes:
As a busy working mom, if I am going to leave my kids and miss time away from either the family or my work schedule, then whatever it is had better be worth it. Yesterday when I stepped back into Flywheel Millburn after a FIVE year hiatus because of medical issues, I can tell you with absolute certainty it was worth every second. You can feel the pulsating energy as soon as you step into the studio space. There is an intensity there that makes you want to do your best. Gina, the instructor for this ride, is incredible.. There is stadium seating in the studio and the lights go out. As soon as I clicked my cleats into the bike I felt like I had come home. The music started, my legs went, and I was back. I felt like a part of myself had been missing, like the party was going on without me all those years and I was all too aware. It was not just that I was dealing with GI problems, a bad fall that has permanently injured my back, and the struggle of gaining and losing and gaining the same 20 pounds; it is really that I have always loved spin, especially at Flywheel and I profoundly missed doing something I love. Now, there is another element to my fitness quest: as a professional female voiceover actor, it is essential that I maintain my instrument by staying in top physical form.

